7 Ways to Love Every Moment of the Single Life

#4: Get rid of artificial expectations.

Kevin Horton
4 min readMay 23, 2020


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Single doesn’t mean alone, no matter what people tell you. If you feel alone, it’s because you want to be. That may sound harsh. But sometimes we need the honest truth. Enough of those cute little clichés used to make us feel better; just say what needs to be said.

The single life is miserable to you because you’re doing it wrong. You’re comparing your life with scripts and fantasies made for people who wish they were real.

Those shiny apples are covered with wax.

Over time, you ignore amazing qualities you didn’t know you had. And you start to see yourself as somehow incomplete.

These are 7 ways you can change the way you view life in the singles lane.

1. Sharpen your skillset.

Now I’m not saying you can’t do in a relationship. But I am pointing out the fact that your time will be occupied with your significant other when the time comes. You don’t want to be caught in a wishing well of should've, could've, and would've.

You have more flexibility in this area when you’re single. If you don’t feel as though something is working out in a certain field, you can switch it up and try something else. Just don’t get used to jumping off boats because things get a little bumpy.

2. Set goals that matter to you.

You have the chance to go after the most important thing in your life without much resistance. Setting goals should never end. But pursuing with the fervor of a single person doesn’t lead to healthy relationships.

That’s because you have to find a balance.

Don’t get me wrong: There will never be a perfect balance in a romantic partnership. At the same time, you will have to ensure the other person is happy with how much time you set aside for them.

3. Learn from your mistakes.

If the last relationship ended on a sour note, keep tabs on the warning signs while you have a chance. The goal is to meet someone who will stick around for the long haul, not some one-night-stander.



Kevin Horton

Believer. Listener. Teller of honest stories.